It has come to my attention, via a female, that I am a rude [censored] because she has written 'thanks' or 'thank you' in about 4 emails recently for various reasons and I never once replied with a 'you're welcome', however, I did send her one 'no problem'. Anyways, her thank yous were never about anything I did of any significant.. I wrote an email to someone to ask about something.. something got done, not by me, but by virtue of an email.. etc.

I searched my inbox for the word 'thank' and literally hundreds of messages came up. I think, in an effort to be polite, as agents we thank everyone for everything in every email, and it has made us completely numb. I cannot reply to every single email with a you're welcome where a 'thanks' was given out of habit rather than a truly sincere 'thank you' meant to express a sincere feeling of gratitude.. I believe I scan over 'thanks' to get to the meat of the message.

The purpose of this thread is two-fold.

First and foremost, help me resolve my issue with my female friend. When I say she brought it to my attention, I do not mean she literally brought it up, of course that would not be mysterious enough for a female, instead she is ignoring me and after an hour or so of pondering I realized my folly. Touche, how shall I play? It seems as though it would be rather awkward to apologize for something that she has not brought up, even though I know that is the problem.

Second, elaborate your thoughts on the use of 'thanks' , 'thank you', the like, and 'you're welcome' and 'no problem' with our colleages and clients in our business.

Of course my female problem is less business, and more pleasure of nature, but now it is less pleasure than it once was.. I believe as a result of the habits formed by my business.

I always throw thanks at the end of everything profeesional. even when Im being nasty...LOL.
I cant imagine I would ever even notice if my "thank you"
wasn't acknowledged with a you're welcome. Who cares.

I rarely say you're welcome to anyone ever. Sometimes no problem or something like that...but it is my feeling that "thank you" in itself is justifiably the end of the showing of gratitude in the conversation. You're welcome is not really necessary unless its an extreme or very significant exchange.



IMO anyway.

If she didn't (and probably won't) bring up, chances are you're still off on why she's acting as she is.

But back to your question, I wouldn't expect or even want a 'you are welcome' after every thank you. Cluttering my inbox over such a mundane courtesy would drive me crazy.

Interesting...

I got land-blasted a few years ago by an employee simply because I didn't go out of my way to stop by their work area and say "Good Morning" each and every day.

Well... guess what, I wasn't having a "Good Morning!" Did you ever consider that possibility?

This turned into a debate, which almost got the person fired. Unfortunately, this type of shenanigan repeated itself occasionally throughout the years.

As to a "You're welcome" after every single "Thank You" in an email - I suppose they'd prefer that you say "You're Welcome" in advance, before they've ever thanked you. Which of course, would be just as presumptuous a behavior as their own expectation of a "You're Welcome" after every single exchange.

Personally, I only say "Thank You" or "You're Welcome" when wrapping something up. I tend to end my emails with some other benign statement - or simply my signature. But once something is wrapped-up, I'll end by saying "It was my pleasure - you're quite welcome" - or something to that effect.

Regardless of the other party's behavior though - I do always try to take the high road. If they choose to act childish.... that's their deal. I just don't "do" emotional games.

are you 100% sure she is upset because there was no "thank you"

the only way to be 100% is to ask.

without asking you are [censored](outof)u(and)m(e)ing

the problem sounds like it is communication based. seh is upset and you are still not 100% sure why she is upset based on the fact that you two have not conversed directly in regards to whatever issue it might or might not be

Good grief. The only acknowledgement I want is when I email something important that the recipient at least email back 'Received it'.

If this is a 'friend', they are way too sensitive in upkeep.

haha, actually, after typing this post but before anyone responded I shot her a short note, not apologizing but said.

btw, you're welcome for 'reason 1', 'reason 2' & 'reason 3', I have a habit of forgetting to say that b/c we as agents throw thanks around in every email, hope you had a nice day.

And.. yes we're talking again, easy as that... on to the next obstacle!

I always put a thanks at the end of every professional email, don't really expect a thank you returned.

If I get an email with a specific request "Hey I can you do this, provide this .......... Thanks" I will respond back when the task is done with a simple "done".

As far as the female portion. Ignore her and enjoy the silence for a while, she will come back and apoligize and won't even know why.

it looks good to add thanks or regards at the end of your email.

For verbal communication I think that a "your welcome" should be be used. I conveys acknowledgement of their gratitude. For email a "your welcome" is not needed for every thanks. But still should be used for tasks that required a significant amount of work.

This whole thing is bizarre.

The point of email is to be more effect with our time and just cut to the chase in our communications.

Personally an email response that just says "thanks" is me is an acknowledgment that you received my earlier message that it. It doesn't require you to spend your time to send a "your welcome" email.

"Your welcome" is for verbal communication imho.