Mmm, my wifes best friend bought a house without my help. We have had them up for weekend's at cottages we rent (they invite us up to cottages that they rent), taught her husband how to trap shoot with a shotgun, had many diners together, always spend chritmas together. Not sure what to make of this? (he is a VP of sales with a Major sporting goods company, similar to Nike.)

I think this is purposely "aimed rejection"
with underlying messages.

What do you cat's think?

Yes I'm the guy that knocks on doors so don't bang me on the head for that.

This cat thinks you just need to get over it, don't hold a grudge and move on. These things happen.

Is their a relationship they had with the other agent?

Did you all discuss their next move with specifics? Was he getting data from you?

I always feel for the mortgage lenders around here. They make their bread and butter by forming wonderful relationships with agents. When they need to sell what do they do? Unless they go FSBO they burn bridges.

Was this something like that? I am just saying, don't be quick to assume it was a rejection.

I know plenty of people who, when they need to engage in a business transaction, will do whatever they can to make sure their money goes to a friend.

I also know plenty of people who, flat out, don't do business with their friends because they don't want to ruin the relationship if the transaction goes sour.

I certainly welcome the business of my friends and family, but I can understand the hesitation that some might feel...and I certainly wouldn't hold it against them.

I generally don't do business with friends or family, so its OK when those calls don't come in. With that said, however, family members frequently come to me with housing questions.

In response to your question, there may have been sensitive details involved in that transaction that they wanted to keep personal (bankruptcy, limited down payment funds, etc.). Take the high road, congratulate them and then share a positive story with them about one of your satisfied clients. Who knows? Properly handled, this may translate into a new source of referrals.

Ouch I hate it when that happens, but it's part of the business and there is nothing you can do about it.

But I don't think it's worth burning your friendship over just make sure you direct any real estate related questions back to their agent in the future.

^^What Andy said.

What Greene said. It sucks, it's life. Oh well.

You all make many good points, thank you. When your spouse
isn't in the business they cannot really relate to how this
feels. You folk can and I thank you for your understanding.

They discussed buying a home with me last Summer, she wanted
to go it alone. ie watch the MLS, walk by homes that she liked
and if she wanted to view it she would contact "Lucky". This
women is a friggen German and has her own ideas on how the
world spins, kinda like my German wife. They bought through
the listing agent and didn't do a home inspection.

I hope the basement floods or their is a major structural
problem with the house, I cant wait to hear all about the
problems, will be fun.

I had this happen with a friend I golfed with every week for years. When it was time to sell he had me do a market analysis and I even helped him stage the house. He assured me I was getting the listing. He ended up listing with an agent his neighbor told him about. She priced the house 40K under what it was worth and sold in a week.

Needless to say, we don't play golf together anymore.

Yep, when crap happens you can offer to refer a couple of of handymen to them and just commiserate. "Wow, what a shame the agent didn't have your back and didn't strongly encourage you to have a home inspection. Ouch!" and then leave the gloating off there. LOL

I always try to avoid taking any pleasure in the misfortune of others . . . . but sometimes it is very difficult to not sense a bit of glee.

Unfortunately it is human nature to not feel a little twinge here or there when trouble befalls someone who you feel wronged you...especially if they had NOT wronged you they wouldn't be in the mess they're in...but you are right Vermont, it is best not to show such vile character traits.

It really is rather loathsome.

If you think it's "aimed rejection" with underlying messages, perhaps its as simple as that. What did you do to tick her off? Could be as simple as one bad joke at a cottage weekend.

My motto is "I don't get even but I get satisfaction". Sometimes that satisfaction is watching this kind of person fall down the rabbit hole of their own stupidity or ignorance or avarice or greed.