It's funny - I was just thinking about this same topic today before I found this post so here are my thoughts from earlier:

Think about your own tastes for a moment... what do you consider attractive? I mean attractive qualities, not what the media says we should think is attractive. I know for myself, CONFIDENCE is an attractive quality.

I wouldn't call myself completely unfortunate, but I'm not exactly hot either. I can go from completely homely to getting wow's. When I go out in public with my hair up and sweats on with no makeup, I am not as confident. I tend to not do business on those days because I don't typically feel good enough about myself to do it... however, when I put on nice, professional, classy and trendy clothes (NOT provocative! and do my hair and makeup, I am much more confident and it's noticeable! I talk more, look people in the eye more, smile more and exude more confidence in general.

I have found myself attracted to people who are confident, but not necessarily perfect looking per society. Confident people look you in the eye and are engaging. They want to know about you and listen. That is attractive. People who are well spoken and attentive are attractive. Ever noticed that? Even if they aren't "pretty" they are still attractive to us.

So don't think that 100k in plastic surgery is going to make you sell more real estate. There are simple things you can do to boost your own confidence.

Here's a few:

Take some courses on public speaking. Being able to talk in public and talk confidently to people will automatically make you more confident, and therefore more attractive. Look into Toastmasters in your area or do some public speaking classes.

Keep yourself fit! Even just go for a walk a few times a week. It produces endorphins, making you happier, and therefore... more confident. This sounds stupid, but I also pay $50/mo for a tanning membership. I go get sprayed every few days because it just makes me feel better. Guys - keep yourself well groomed and well dressed. Girls - put a little effort into your hair and makeup as well as choice of clothing. It's okay to spend a little money on yourself. No, it's not shallow if it makes YOU feel better. First impressions are everything!

Eat a good clean diet - this will help you feel better about yourself. Remember, you are what you eat! Eat of load of junk, you'll feel like a load and that passes to your actions too. You'll feel heavy, greasy, frumpy etc.

Make sure you know your stuff! This one is huge. Know your target market details, whatever that may be. That way, when someone asks you something, you'll have the answer in your back pocket. Always do your research and be up to date.

Don't forget - Knowledge is Power.
When you have knowledge, confidence replaces fear!

I think everyone has their own idea of what "attractive" is, but I really think confidence is key. It sounds cliche, but watch yourself being engaged by those that exude confidence and then dig into what makes them that way. I've come across pretty darn good looking people that I don't care to work with, be around or associate with because they are airheads, into themselves, don't know what their doing, etc. You get the idea.

After saying all this, I can honestly say that I struggle with confidence and that is why I employ these things myself. For some reason, I can't get past my own negative inertia sometimes. Don't laugh, but I actually have a bracelet that says "Damn, I'm Good!" When I need a little boost, I look down, read that and then stand up straight again and keep going!

I know this was long, but I hope it helps - at least to clear up any "attractive" myths!

You are what you think you are...

P.S - Did you know that 70% of those in real estate are women... and that women in general are more successful in real estate? Know why? Cuz' we LISTEN! Not because we hike our skirts!

And someone said it best - always, always engage the wife. I promise she almost always holds the last card! Leave her out, and you may leave yourself out of a deal.

interesting, what study was it that had published this result?

I don't put my pictures on business cards now (I have before), internet or anything that may have someone looking for an open invitation to trouble, especially open houses. Should this be another topic or does anyone else have these concerns.

I was thinking the same thing. The draw back of being an attractive woman is that you are an open target. You shouldn't have to worry about these things but we know that you do. That is why everyone should be aware of their surroundings and always practise safe habits to help identify potential situations. This goes especially for women who are considered attractive by the general population. Its like when your younger and your at a club or party and the extremely attractive girl gets all the attention while the so-so will maybe get an occasional visit or 2. Just some random thoughts. Hopefully most of my spelling it ok. Kind of late right now...

After age 35, you can go back to putting your picture back on your card because by then we're too old for any one to want to attack let alone come on to us.

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Are you kidding me Artiste? after 35 is still very young. I am not saying that because I myself am in my mid 30's, but because as a man I have seen plenty of women in their mid to late 30 and 40's who are still gorgeous. Maybe by the time you are in your late 50's and early 60's most mid to younger guys will gravitate towards the younger looking woman. But I think an early 40 to late 40 yr old woman can still compete and get the looks. Definitely a mid 30 yr old can.

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This question is so ridiculous!

I'm thinking of using this picture of me in my marketing, in spite of the fact that it's 22 years old...what do you think?

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No answer to your question yet, estatereal?

Apparently, she's not listening!

87% of all statistics are made up!


that was a tagline on somoenese forumname thingy and i use it all the time now since i saw it.

it's one of my favorites