Ask him when he's ready to discuss his daughter's dowry.

R.A.- take this advice from me- DO NOT EVER be fooled into thinking you can do business with your father-in-law! There may be a time when he softens to your situation and wants to use you for a transaction- DON'T! I sold a house for my in-laws a few years ago with whom I have always had a good relationship and it was the worst thing ever. I gave them a smokin' deal because I represented both sides (3% for a double end) AND sold the house for WAY more than they expected in less than 7 days and I still had to write them a check back out of my measley 3% double-end commission for almost $4k because "they didn't understand our listing agreement" and I "tricked" them. That transaction was almost the end of my relationship with them. They treated me sooo horribly over that, asking "what is it you do, anyways" and "why do you have to get paid so much". My husband was furious with them too and I vowed from that moment forward I would never discuss or do business again with them for the rest of my life. I still harbor resentment over it and it totally has nothing to do with the money but the fact that they apparently have no respect for me and no sense of decency. I cannot imagine treating "family" as horribly as they treated me then. It has been almost 4 years and it still ticks me off when I think about it!